Aug
26
26
Fraggle asked:
okay, so my mother, father, grandfather and i are supposed to be driving up to the north of england for a week to do some surfing(just me and mum, dad has M.E arthiritis and grandad’s 87), then to scotland for scuba diving. this in itself is HELL as my grandad just moans all the time and we have to be ‘considerate’ (meaning not have any fun), my dad is useless and horrible and will be moving out at the end of august, and my mum is a neurotic emotional basketcase who can nag for britain.
here is my dilemma.
i REALLY do NOT want to live for two weeks, in a shack on the beach, then a campervan, with them.
plus i dislike scuba diving strongly. the same goes for surfing and especially windsurfing. my mum never asked me if i wanted to go, but she’s booked me in for scuba diving and everything.
thing is, i’ve asked and asked not to go, as i’m almost 17 and can fend for myself at home for 2 weeks easily. and my mother’s nagging and pestering will drive me round the bend. it has done on all the rest of the holidays i’ve been on. she nags, we fall out, i want to go home.
my grandad just doesn’t do/say much. but i never talk to him, even though he lives with us. but i’ve got to be quiet, and not play my music loud, in case he can hear it. IT DRIVES ME MAD!
and dad is useless and uncaring and makes everyone else mad.
and i won’t even get started on my mum. we’re talking straightjacket.
so, what i guess i’m asking, is:
is there any way to avoid going on holiday with them without killing/maiming anyone, without stopping them going on holiday(if they didn’t go, they’d guilt trip me to death), or without causing lasting emotional harm, breaking the car, etc…basically i just want to stay at home, but i can’t think of a way.
can anyone help me?
okay, so my mother, father, grandfather and i are supposed to be driving up to the north of england for a week to do some surfing(just me and mum, dad has M.E arthiritis and grandad’s 87), then to scotland for scuba diving. this in itself is HELL as my grandad just moans all the time and we have to be ‘considerate’ (meaning not have any fun), my dad is useless and horrible and will be moving out at the end of august, and my mum is a neurotic emotional basketcase who can nag for britain.
here is my dilemma.
i REALLY do NOT want to live for two weeks, in a shack on the beach, then a campervan, with them.
plus i dislike scuba diving strongly. the same goes for surfing and especially windsurfing. my mum never asked me if i wanted to go, but she’s booked me in for scuba diving and everything.
thing is, i’ve asked and asked not to go, as i’m almost 17 and can fend for myself at home for 2 weeks easily. and my mother’s nagging and pestering will drive me round the bend. it has done on all the rest of the holidays i’ve been on. she nags, we fall out, i want to go home.
my grandad just doesn’t do/say much. but i never talk to him, even though he lives with us. but i’ve got to be quiet, and not play my music loud, in case he can hear it. IT DRIVES ME MAD!
and dad is useless and uncaring and makes everyone else mad.
and i won’t even get started on my mum. we’re talking straightjacket.
so, what i guess i’m asking, is:
is there any way to avoid going on holiday with them without killing/maiming anyone, without stopping them going on holiday(if they didn’t go, they’d guilt trip me to death), or without causing lasting emotional harm, breaking the car, etc…basically i just want to stay at home, but i can’t think of a way.
can anyone help me?
and before anyone says, no i am not spoilt at all. i’ve learnt from experience that our family holidays, or any holidays involving my mother, ALWAYS go to pot, and we always come back having fallen out. you would not believe the woman!
Don’t worry, I don’t think you’re spoiled, I also have problems being with family on vacations too. First thing you need to do is ask (I know it’s probably hard and seems obvious). Tell whichever family member you’re closest with that you’d much prefer staying home this time and that you think you’re really old enough to take care of yourself. Make sure you’re willing to compromise, like tell them you’ll be able to cook for yourself, wash your own dishes, feed the pets if you have them, clean your room..even offer to do some of their work while they’re gone if you’re that serious about this. I would definitely avoid lying, for instance telling them you were sick and couldn’t go, because it’s possible they would just postpone the trip and discover you weren’t really sick after all. If whoever you tell seems suspicious that you don’t want to go, then you have to be honest and tell him/her that you feel uncomfortable and annoyed on these vacations. Say that you’re worried you would just be angry and miserable the whole time, but be tactful. Oh yeah, (sorry if this is way too long but there’s another thing) you may also want to get involved in something while they are gone so your family knows you won’t be sitting in front of the TV the whole time. Good luck friend!